But First, Mom Guilt
Let’s face it, we all feel guilty at some point or another for spending our days in our work space working away on our business while our littles make due with movies, snacks for meals and entertaining themselves somehow. Or, how about feeling guilty for being exhausted and not wanting to do much other than lay on the couch after pulling an all-nighter working the night before?
I know, I get it, having littles home while also running a business is a struggle. We constantly struggle with whether we should push work aside to be with our littles, or let our littles watch movies and eat snacks all day so we can work without having to pull an all-nighter. But they are there with us, which is an awesomely amazing thing! They can come to us when they need us, even if it’s a long journey up the stairs. But that doesn’t leave us with any less guilt.
Recently, since I became busier with work,
Side note: is it weird calling what we do “work” to anyone but me? I struggled with it for a while when I first began my Mompreneur career, like, am I REALLY “working”? I get to do what I love and make money at it. It just feels weird calling it “work”. But I digress.
Since becoming busier, I have had to spend a lot more time during the day working, trust me, I can only work so many all-nighters in a row before I am complete shit, we won’t discuss how I’m aware of this fact. As a mom of three with a business to run, I ain’t got time for being complete shit. So yes, day time hours have had to be spent in my office working away quite often lately.
So far this summer I have heard: “Mommy, why do you work so much”? “Mommy, come play with us”. “Mommy, are we going to do anything FUN today?” Ugh, really little dude? Movies and eating whatever you manage to sneak from the pantry isn’t FUN?! You had prefer my full attention so I can tell you NO to every snack you choose, or the soda you sneak from the fridge or your beating up your little brother? That’s what I REALLY want to say. But then the guilty Mommy comes out and slaps selfish, workaholic Mommy in the face and says, maybe we should do something FUN, maybe I do need to put this work stuff aside and focus on my littles.
The guilt is real, the struggle is real, but the hustle is real-er ya’ll!
The Struggle To Give Up Is Real
Look, I’m going to be honest here, my kids are not my only priority in life. GASP! I know, crazy, right? I have other priorities in my life that don’t involve my precious littles! But I did make the decision, along with my husband, that I would stay home with my kids. I wouldn’t go “work for the man” so I could be the one to take care of our boys every day. Be there for our school-aged boy if he needed to be picked up from school early for an appointment or due to illness. And let’s not forget the hubby, he gets his fair share of being taken care of too. haha
I did choose the SAHM life, but I also chose the Entrepreneur life. I chose to have more, do more and show my boys that their Mommy is bad ass and can accomplish so much more than changing a diaper on the fly, making the best damn Lunchable Pizza you’ve ever had or become a make-shift airplane from time to time.
Don’t get me wrong, there have been plenty of days that I have been working where my littles refuse to allow me to do so without an interruption every 5 minutes. Little hands grabbing for supplies, trying to play with equipment, either mine or their daddy’s. The questions, oh God, the questions, “Whatcha doing mommy”? “Can I help”? “What is that?” “Ooo can I have one”? “Can we watch a movie in here”? Not to mention just the general every day Mommy stuff. It’s frustrating! It’s hard and yes, I struggle with wondering if it’s all worth it or not.
Sometimes I think to myself, perhaps I should just hang up my Entrepreneur hat and stick to just being a Wife and a Mother. This shit is hard, maybe I’m not cut out for this, or this isn’t what I was supposed to do with my life. Being a kick ass wife and mommy was my ultimate calling.
Let’s face it, I can’t get rid of my kids, the hubby is debatable, but I kind of like really like him, so he stays for good, too. That only leaves one option – shutting down my businesses, calling it quits and giving in to everything that is tough, hard and frustrating. WRONG!
Nothing Worth Having Is Easy
Giving up and giving in, never made anyone successful! Nothing worth having is easy. You must work hard, and in the midst struggles will occur, so you fight through them and get better. You will get knocked down but you will also get back up and keep fighting to get what you want and succeed. That’s why I choose to grab the Mompreneur Hustle Life by the beach ball sized lady nuts and make it my bitch. I WILL succeed as a Mom, Wife AND an Entrepreneur, no matter what. I will not limit myself.
Will it be hard, frustrating and exhausting? You’re damn right it will be! But it will all be worth it. What we learn, how much we grow from this “job”, these experiences, are like nothing else. We are learning and perfecting – ok perhaps perfecting is a stretch – getting better at, multitasking every day. We are becoming stronger in our field of work, stronger as Moms and as wives.
It’s not the easy parts of life that define us, it is how we deal with the hard stuff, how we manage through the struggles and pains and frustrations that define us, make us who we are.
I want my boys to see a Mommy who fought for them, their dad AND herself. I want my boys to see a Mommy who struggled, but didn’t give up and succeeded through it all.
Check Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself
If you’re not getting better, you’re getting worse.
I do my best to check myself daily. What did I screw up, what did I forget, etc. But most importantly, what could I do better, how could I make a change, no matter how small. I try to spend my time doing this instead of thinking of giving up on one aspect of my life or another. What good would that do? – I have my dear husband to think for this thought process.
Easier Said Than Done, Am I Right?
I get it, some of you out there are really struggling with this juggle that is the Mompreneur Hustle. You are having a hard time with whether to continue or not. And those struggles may not all be centered around the balance of work and home life, maybe your business just isn’t going how you’d hoped. Most of you know whether it’s what you REALLY want to continue doing or not. I’m not here to make you feel bad for hanging up your Entrepreneur hat to put 100% of your focus on your Mom life. You know your situation better than I do.
But what I do want to stress is this, if this is truly what you want to do, but you still struggle, keep working, take a break from time to time, but don’t give up. Don’t give up on something you have already worked so hard to become and build. Don’t give up on the future of your Mompreneur Life. It can be done, you can do it and WILL do it with hard work, perseverance, and the constant checking of yourself to do better and make changes.
Some changes you must force yourself to make, like putting your work before your kids 1 or 2 days out of the week so you aren’t depriving yourself of too much sleep. Or, putting work aside one day to do something super fun and special with your littles. Knowing when and where to make those changes is key, and that’s for you to decide, but it can be done.
Do Your Best
Look, whether you became a Mompreneur because you made that choice from the beginning to start your own business so you could stay home with your littles while having something to call your own and make some extra money, or your hobby just so happened to turn in to a business, you have no choice but to do your best.
Don’t give up, keep working hard and keep telling yourself you got this! And if you can’t tell yourself that just yet, I will. YOU GOT THIS!
Now off you go, grab Mompreneur Life by the beach ball sized lady nuts it has and make it happen, I know I am!
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