Warning: No Sugar Coated Bullshit Here
I’m going to be honest, it hasn’t been a great day, or couple of days. I’m probably not going to have anything positive or uplifting to say here. I started this blog to discuss my journey in Mompreneur Life, which includes but not limited to: the good, the bad, the ugly, the beauty and the negative bullshit that is Mom and Entrepreneur Life. I said from the beginning I was going to be REAL here, you won’t find any sugar coated bullshit from me and damn if I’m not about to drop a load of un-sugar coated bullshit on you! So this is your warning, if you can’t handle Real Talk, some negativity and my Mom Rant, then you should probably stop reading this post now. Maybe my post on the Mompreneur Casserole would be more your speed?
Is It Time For School To Start Yet?
So, our oldest has been out of school since the 9th of June and doesn’t go back until the end of August. The…END…of…AUGUST. (Insert freaked out emoji) I love him, he’s an amazing kid, one of the best and sweetest there is and such a great big brother. But damn if he doesn’t add to the chaos on such a different level. He may be 8, but he’s not exempt from adding to the chaos and struggles of this already struggling mommy.
They are three very busy, loud, messy, crazy, restless and relentless little boys, all with their own strong personalities that add such different dynamics to our every day lives. I get it, they need to be kept busy, they are boys. But holy shit ya’ll, this is insane! The constant fighting and yelling, screaming and fighting and mess making, snacking – because God forbid they eat an actual meal. And did I mention the fighting?! It’s driving me up the damn wall!! I feel like I spend most of the week being mean, naggy mommy who’s no fun. Why do I have to end up with a sore throat, a head ache and high blood pressure by the end of the day in order to accomplish anything, and I mean ANYTHING?!
It Hasn’t All Been Bad
We spent a week in Florida with family where we got to do lots of fun things – they weren’t nagged too much. We came home and two weeks later were at the beach with more family, where again, they were fairly free from that mean, naggy mommy. I’ve taken them to some fun places, the pool, a museum, the park and ice rink (well, that’s more for the 8yr old) to name a few. They’ve spent some time at grandma’s where they are certainly free from mean, naggy mommy and treated to all of their hearts desires. So if you’re feeling sorry for my kids so far, don’t, they’ve had a pretty awesome summer considering.
But I’m Tired
I am tired, I am tired physically, mentally and emotionally. So fucking tired. This is a whole new level of tired that has nothing to do with lack of sleep. I am so tired of being a referee, breaking up fights, decifering who ‘started it’, or who had that toy first. I’m so tired of asking nicely for them to do, or not do something; when I just end up becoming psycho mom because that’s apparently the only way to get their attention.
I’m tired of the madhouse we live in where everything is a mess, all of the time, toys everywhere – don’t get me started on the damn toys!! Snack wrappers and crumbs everywhere, blankets and pillows that can never seem to stay on the couch or beds and laundry, Oh God the laundry!!
Going anywhere with them is like herding cats! Trying to get out of the house, herding cats; getting in to the truck, herding cats; going in to store, pool, or wherever we have planned to go that day, herding cats. They whine and cry over everything and I mean EVERYTHING! You did something they wanted to do, you wouldn’t do something they wanted you to do; their brother was playing with a toy they didn’t know existed until they saw their brother with it. You didn’t put the right shoes on them, or God forbid you want to hold their hand so they don’t run out in front of a car! GASP!!
Did I mention how fucking tired I am?
Don’t Listen To Them
This shit is fucking hard! My fellow Stay At Home Moms out there, if ANYONE tells you otherwise, you can swiftly tell them to FUCK OFF because they obviously have no clue!! Do I feel greatful and blessed to have the ability to stay home with my boys and be there for them no matter how ridiculous the request may be? You’re damn right I am! But does that make it any less difficult to navigate? Hell no!! Does that mean I have no right to express my frustration? NOPE! So if you’ve gotten this far and you’re saying things like, “well you should be greatful you have the ability to stay home with your kids”, or “you chose this life, deal with it”, “go get a job and stop complaining”, here’s a quick message for you – FUCK OFF. I AM greatful and I AM dealing with it. Ranting and getting my messsage out to other Moms who are going through the same struggles IS me dealing with it, so YOU deal with it!
There’s No Such Thing As Perfect
This idea that we all have to be perfect as Mothers, be it a SAHM or a Working Mom, Single Mom, etc. is insane! It’s part of the reason why so many of us are feeling the exact way I am feeling and describing to you here! We are NOT perfect! I don’t give two shits what Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest have to say about that, or Mrs. Suzy Homemaker down the street. WE ARE NOT PERFECT – We can’t do it all and shouldn’t pressure ourselves so hard to feel we HAVE to be able to do it all, especially while putting on the perfect “look at me, my life is perfect” face. *Gag me with a spoon!* – We are only humans trying to do our best to raise tiny humans who we hope won’t grow up to become worthless assholes.
Mean, Naggy Mommy It Is
So if I have to be the most loving, caring and helpful mean, naggy mommy in order for that not to happen, then that is what I will be, but fuck if it’s not tough. I know I hear all of the time, “you’ll miss this one day”, “it’ll all be over before you know it”, “wait until they become teenagers”, “soon you will have no say or control over them”, “it gets easier”, etc., I’ve heard it all before, several times before by MANY people and although I appreciate the kinds words and helpful reassurance that this craziness isn’t forever, it doesn’t help. All of us moms in this stage of life, with several small children, we know, we know time flies, we know they won’t be little forever and will soon not need our kisses for their boo boos or need our help putting on shoes or using the potty, or holding their tiny hands while walking down a parking lot; we know all of this, which is probably one reason why we put so much pressure on ourselves; but that doesn’t make this season of life any less difficult to navigate.
You’re Not Alone
So to all of you moms out there in this season of life, I feel your pain, I am living breathing proof that this pain and extreme exhaustion exist. You’re not alone, there are more of us out there, don’t be afraid to cry, yell, scream or crawl in to a hole with a margarita and some tacos for a bit when you need to release and regroup. We aren’t perfect and that’s ok, this life is not for the weak and we aren’t weak, but holy shit, some times we just need to let it all out. #endmomrant
I know this wasn’t the most positive or uplifting message I’ve put out there. If nothing else, I hope that by sharing that my struggle as a Mom is so real, you won’t feel alone, no matter what your ‘status’ as a Mom is.
Feel free to comment below with what your most recent Mom struggle was! We’re all in this together, so we can Rant together!
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